She was in her early 50’s, had taken good care of herself, understood the importance of eating right and was of normal body weight. But somehow, she never quite got into an exercise routine. When she started coaching with me she knew she needed to have an exercise routine in her life but up until that point couldn’t quite “make it happen.”
This was an interesting situation. To look at my client, you would not guess that she did NOT workout. She was thin and healthy and appeared strong. Even though she was a strong proponent for all things healthy, she personally disliked exercise and would most likely be happy to never do it…ever…if it weren’t for that nagging voice in her head that kept telling her that she “should” be doing it. After years of struggling with that voice, she started coaching with me and we started to play the “Exercise, Strength and Vitality” game.
I quickly realized that the “exercise hater” inside her was not to be easily swayed and needed to be addressed. One of the first “Action Plan” items that I challenged her to, was to write out a list of “What would happen if you NEVER exercised again in your life?”
Some of the things she came up with were:
- I will continue to lose strength and muscle mass.
- I will become more prone to injury (which was important because her career had a physical element to it and if she was injured, it could possibly mean an early end to her career).
- I will have a harder time pursuing my hobby and passion (which also had a physical component to it).
- I will be less agile in doing the things I enjoy with the people I love; such as, climbing down steep cliffs with my husband or lifting and playing with my grandchildren.
I mentioned to her that there IS a benefit to never exercising again…more “free” time. If she didn’t exercise she wouldn’t have to devote time in her schedule to working out (she was really struggling with “finding the time”).
Now the choice was clear. Saying “no” to an exercise routine meant saying “yes” to her list of things that she absolutely did NOT want in her life (even the “exercise hater” inside her wasn’t happy with that).
And the opposite was also true…saying “yes” to an exercise routine meant: She would be able to continue in her career with less concern of injury. She could continue to pursue her hobby and passion. But most importantly, she would be able to continue her hikes with her husband and could look forward to many years of physical play (and walks on the beach) with her grandchildren. All for the “small” price of “finding the time” and adding a consistent exercise routine to her day.
She said, “YES!” and found her motivation that day. That was early in the 3 month coaching program that she invested in. We continued on and had a successful “winning game” of “Exercise, Strength and Vitality.”
So what about you? Have you found your motivation to do what you really want to do? Is there an area of your life that you are struggling to connect with your motivation? Tell me in the comments or email me privately if you prefer.